The Coaching Relationship: What You Need To Know
So, you're considering working with a coach – that's fantastic! But before you dive in headfirst, let's have a heart-to-heart about how to approach your coaching journey intentionally.
Think of coaching like any other relationship; it's essential to know what you're looking for before you commit. Imagine you're seeking a life partner – you'd want to know what you're seeking upfront, right? It's a bit like ensuring you're not accidentally matching with someone looking for a one-night stand when you're seeking something more meaningful.
Coaches approach coaching in various ways. Some focus on mindset and helping you think things through, while others are action-oriented, emphasizing goal-setting and accomplishment. For instance, I strongly advocate a balanced approach for my clients, but I do tend to emphasize action and achievement more.
Having a clear idea of what you want from a coaching relationship is like having a compass in the dating world; it helps you find the perfect match. The same principle applies in a coaching relationship.
When To Start
Why do you want coaching?
If you find yourself drawn to coaching or a particular coach, that's great. But, it's essential to reflect on why you seek coaching. If you want someone to provide step-by-step instructions or manage your life, coaching may not be the right fit.
If you're looking to acquire knowledge on a specific topic, consider taking a course or training.
If you're dealing with trauma or facing substantial mental or emotional challenges, therapy may be a more suitable option, either on its own or as a complement to coaching.
However, if you aim to shift your mindset, set and achieve goals, navigate significant life changes, develop a team, enhance your leadership skills, receive personalized support, or improve holistic wellness, coaching is an ideal choice.
What's Your Intention?
Before you start searching for a coach, take a moment to determine what you want to achieve. Consider the areas you want to focus on, such as changing careers, developing your team, achieving work-life balance, or other pressing goals. Not all coaches specialize in the same areas, so knowing your goals beforehand will guide your selection process.
Find The Right Coach
Finding the right coach involves considering their specialization and expertise. Explore coaches who align with your goals and values. Many coaches offer a free discovery or chemistry call, which provides an opportunity to gauge if you and the coach are a good match. Trust your instincts during this conversation, as it's a crucial step in determining compatibility.
Make Sure You’re Ready
Coaching is an investment and a commitment. Prepare yourself, as well as the people around you, for the time, energy, and work required to make the most of your coaching relationship. It's essential to allocate the necessary resources and create a conducive environment for your coaching journey.
Embrace Change
Once you've selected and begun working with your coach, prepare for change. Be open to shifts in mindset, goals, confidence, and self-perception. Sometimes, unexpected goals or obstacles may arise during coaching. A skilled coach will help you navigate these changes, ensuring that you stay on track toward your objectives.
Stay Committed
A coaching relationship, like any other, has its ups and downs. Your coach should support, acknowledge, uplift, challenge, confront, and occasionally unsettle you as part of the growth process. Stay present and committed during these moments. If you ever feel that your coach is not the right fit, consider discussing it or exploring other options. Sometimes, discomfort and challenge lead to the most profound growth.
Say Goodbye
A successful coaching relationship has a beginning, a purpose, and an end. It should not drag on indefinitely or become a dependency. Be cautious of coaches who attempt to extend the coaching relationship beyond its initial purpose. Parting ways is a sign of achievement and personal growth. If needed, you can always reconnect with your trusted coach later for new objectives.
If you're looking for a strengths-based approach to enhance your well-being, attain work-life balance, advance your career, improve your leadership skills, or foster stronger teams, we might be the perfect match! Ready to take the first step? Explore if coaching with me is right for you by clicking >> here and signing up for a free 30-minute discovery call. It's a chance to chat, ask questions, and see if this exciting journey aligns with your goals. You've got this, and your goals will be your guiding light on this thrilling adventure!
